Parenting

Throughout my time writing this blog I have talked about many fears people face in marriage. I have also offered several remedies to these fearful events. Today I will talk about parenting. The thing that makes most adults feel totally inadequate and most teens and young adults quiver when they contemplate their possible future of being parents. Parenting is also looked down upon by many in society today. They believe that it doesn't enable fathers or mothers to achieve their fullest potential. Society will tell you that a woman who chooses to stay home is settling or caging herself to the home and not fully spreading her wings. Society will say that fathers are no longer necessary. Popular culture and television displays fathers as cabbage headed men who are good for nothing except some comical relief in some popular TV shows. My goal today is to describe the nobility of parenthood and some simple techniques that will enable fathers and mothers to have more effective communication with their children. My hope is that this will help you approach the inevitable challenge of parenthood with more confidence and provide some helpful techniques that will help parents be better prepared.
Motherhood and fatherhood is the most noble of any cause known to man. More noble than anything. It is the most selfless of all choices. Giving your life in its entirety to the benefit of the children. Only a parent fully comprehends the sacrifices needed in order to raise and righteous and happy family. And a child only starts to realize the great effect good parents have on them and their love as they leave home and become parents themselves. but what does motherhood entail. It often requires skills with culinary arts, cleaning, counseling, nurturing, playing, patience and many more things. Fatherhood requires many hours of selfless time spent earning money to provide for their family. Fatherhood necessitates  protecting ones family from potential seen and unseen threats. Parenting is the most noble cause because it is the most selfless act of all. All time, energy and money is devoted to the care of the children of a married couple. Many faithfully married people would testify of this and the rewards of personal satisfaction that parenting brings.
But with it's rewards parenting is still very difficult. Teens especially can be very troublesome with their attitudes of rebellion and defiance. Technique, love, patience and meekness are critical in handling these issues. A useful technique that helps in managing conflict is a simple communication technique. It goes like this:
"When..... happens, I feel..... because...... I would like....."
For example, "When the living room is left in a mess like this, I feel taken advantage of and upset because I always have to clean up after you. I would like it if you helped me and cleaned up after yourself". Notice that this technique avoids blaming the child by not saying for example "you are messy" or "when you are too lazy". This technique involves simply stating what has happened and requires that you ask gently. This technique also gives the child a clear idea on what he or she can do better to fix the problem. The problem is clearly displayed and it helps give the child a better idea on what they can do differently. It also helps the child see how you feel. You give yourself a chance to express emotion in a way that the teen can feel bad for what they have done but in a healthy way. Guilt in a healthy dosage can lead a teen to do something better. This is just one helpful technique out of many that can be beneficial to parenting.
Parenting no matter how difficult is an honorable commitment. Any dedicated parent could receive a reward but the most rewarding gift of parenthood is children who honor and love them and who are dedicated to what is right.

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